The "Ex" Factor...

So seriously???? Can't anything go right? I mean I try and try and try and try to do my best and make everyone happy to avoid conflict but at what expense??? My sanity?!
Well I don't want to go into details, but I just need to say wow! To make a very long story short I have an ex who is pissed at me for obtaining a lawyer in regards to child's access and transportation. I've gone above and beyond what most people would do to ensure their child has an excellent relationship with their "other" side of the family. It has been 5 years since our previous court order and felt that it was time to amend the old and bring on the new due to the major changes in the child's life. But by the attitude of the "other" side of the family I don't have the right to counsel! You see I got a lawyer since I didn't feel I could communicate properly with my child's "father". His idea of communication is emailing me when it is convenient for him... Anyway the "communication" was getting no where and I felt/feel that it is the only way anything will get resolved in a reasonable and civil manner.
I have a pretty good idea what the underlining issues are and they have nothing to do with the child's best interest. It is pretty sad when people can't get over their resentments and move forward in their lives. Exactly why I need a lawyer... I'm not dealing with other people's hate and anger.
What I find most, well, retarded, is that the letter my lawyer sent was very nice and encouraged that we work together and aim not to go to court and it is being made out to be as if I'm trying to screw the other side over! This is insane! I want help with transportation and a new schedule, I don't give a flying rats ass about money! I care about my child and what is best for him,,, not what is best for his father!
I have done all the driving for the past 2 years and I have never heard 1 thank you or anything from anyone in his side of the family. It is all "you moved there why should I have to pay for it", well to be very honest their is nothing in the court order saying I have to do all the driving and their is nothing saying I can't move! I am still in the same province and have been very encouraging towards the relationship between child and the so called "father".
I guess I am so upset because I know I have done more than anyone else I know in respects to respect the relationship between my child and his father and his side of the family and it got me where? Used and disrespected!  I've never heard ONE thank you or any offer of help... I send report cards, pictures, updates on general information etc... and for what? nothing but B.S.... why am I expected to do all of this? Nothing says I have to... I guess it was my own stupidity and ignorance that made me think that maybe being nice would make things easier and get me ahead... HAHAHA... right!  It got me nowhere! I know I have gone above and beyond... I guess it is "their" turn to get off their asses and start doing some work...
You see the sad difference between me and "them" is that I have done everything I have for my child... Yet everything "they" do is due to "their" anger at me... They want to punish me... and part of that punishment is that "they" feel since I moved I should have to do ALL the driving... I just don't see how we are going to settle outside of court on this issue, there is so much more to it involving support and custody. At least at the end of it all I know I've been looking at my child's best interest, not revenge! This isn't about money for me... I don't care about money I care about my child. This is the problem with law... People become so unreasonable and look for punishment where it is not reasonable to give. No law can make another person like, love, or even tolerate another person! Get over it! Like everyone else I have to go to bed at night with the decisions I have made in my life and I would just like to say that I sleep like a baby with no regrets!