Thursday, April 8, 2010

To Be?

So we get a phone call last Thursday telling us that Morgan is still on tour and that they would call us on Tuesday to fill us in with further details. Well it is now Wednesday evening and we still haven't heard a thing? Talk about leaving a family hanging! Like come on, it isn't exactly a nice thing to do, toy with the emotions of a family. I guess the best thing to do at this point is to prepare as if he is leaving and if he doesn't, well that is great! I guess I've been preparing myself for this for months, I'm not naive enough to believe what the military says until it happens, lol.
What many people don't understand is that it isn't like a normal job. Things change on a moments notice and a soldier is expected to be prepared for it... and if that soldier has decided to take on the responsibility of a family then he/she needs to make sure his family understands the way things work. I hear so many stories of wives and parents etc... giving the soldier a hard time for having to go as if he has control over the situation. I certainly understand people's frustrations, obviously we love our family member who is in the forces but I don't think it is fair to take out those frustrations on that person. It is a flow of emotions and making a soldier feel guilty or giving guilt trips for doing their job just disgusts me.
I just wish that everyone really could really understand how important it is to support our troops. I'm not just talking about families of the troops but the public as a whole. I don't care if you support the mission or not, just support our soldiers... and their families! I personally don't feel that the public really knows what it is like for a family... the anxiety and stress and the life style change. Think about it for a second... When my husband is gone it is going to be just me with 2 kids, 1 dog, 3 cats, a house to clean and a property to maintain along with EVERYTHING else... and no family living within hours of me! I know some people up here but not many, it is a little scary to be completely honest. Sure I have family who say if I need anything they will help and are supportive and so on, but what are they going to do from hours away? I totally get that people can't drop their lives on a dime because I'm having a bad day and need time to myself, or maybe I get sick and want to spend the day in bed. In a way it will be like being a single mom but I'm just going to be isolated from everyone. My only hope is that this will make me stronger and will also make my marriage even stronger, though sometimes I wonder if that is possible because it is so strong already!
To all of our troops who have started their journey to Afghanistan, have a safe trip! We look forward to having you walk on Canadian soil again soon!

2 comments:

  1. This was written on one of your rough days, wasn't it, Heather? Like all the rest, wish we could be geographically closer to help, but I think you and Morgan have gotten so used to being a long distance from well intentioned family, closer would become suffocating! This is not meant to minimize your feelings right now. Just remember, we love you & are fumbling for the right words and moves as well. It's just that words can sometimes become more harmful than helpful when things are ALL going wrong!!

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  2. Actually no, not a rough day at all, just some thoughts I was having, well have been having for some time. My blog is based on the fact that I have a military family so I figured I should start writing about it a little more.

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